Decorating for Advent
I am decorating for Advent.
I am fascinated by those who are decorating for Christmas.
It is possible that I am persnickety on this point.
I raised (rose?) the ire of some when, a few days back, I facebooked a friend’s facetious post, namely that every time a Christmas tree is put up before Thanksgiving, an elf drowns a baby reindeer.
I added that the same is true when Christmas hymns are sung in Advent.
Jeepers.
Few of my FB posts about economic disparities, slashes to education budgets, and our inadequate health care system get even a quarter of the comments that this one generated–comments either way, it must be said.
And I’m left to wonder about that.
I’m feeling protective of Advent in a particular way this year, though last year I was clearly irritable about it too.
Perhaps it’s the Occupy movement, the way that it is showing the plight of so many people (most people?) who are trying to make it and can’t.
Perhaps it’s the partner reality that some of the time we aren’t making it because we are overextended, financially and otherwise, and that we allow marketers to define what “making it” means.
Perhaps it’s because crowds of people stress me out, and I wonder about why there are crowds of people in some places, like malls, and not in other places, like serving food to the cold and homeless.
Perhaps it’s because I love good hymnody, and there is so much good Advent hymnody we never sing because “Joy to the World” and “Silent Night” and “O Come All Ye Faithful”–good hymnody too, let it be said!–encroach on our allotted December hymn-singing moments.
Perhaps it’s that my children are old enough now to learn about the integrity of the church calendar, and its beauty, and its quiet rhythm. When I reach to get our advent wreath, it gives me an opportunity to explain to them that it isn’t a Christmas wreath, but an Advent wreath, and it involves patient waiting, and story telling, and wondering that Great Lutheran Question: “What does this mean?”
Perhaps it’s that I have always loved that after Gabriel’s announcement to Mary that the Lord favored her, she was perplexed and pondered.
She didn’t go into a frenzy, shopping or otherwise.
She surely didn’t think about pepper spraying anybody, I’ll tell you what, or walking blithely over somebody’s dead body at the ancient Middle Eastern version of Target during a sale that would have been held in the name of Yahweh.
And if she got up at midnight, it wasn’t to get a good deal on a lot of goods that will be forgotten.
Instead, she was perplexed and she pondered.
And then she acted.
Perhaps it’s because I fear that for all the incarnational richness of Christmas, it too often is reduced to an image of Jesus who “no crying he made,” (where is that in Scripture?) and grew up to be Jesus meek and mild (where is that in Scripture?).
Instead, I’m of a mind to believe that it’s in Advent when we hear the incarnational rubber hitting the eschatological road.
In other words, God-made-flesh is coming to enact God’s-agenda-made-promised.
Jesus’ birth means something.
Listen up.
And it might not come wrapped in a box with a bow either, you brood of vipers.
(John the Baptist’s’ Advent words, not mine).
And it’s there that I realize that it might be clear why Advent gets short shrift.
It attends to three things we in the US don’t particularly like: waiting, pondering, and, paradoxically, acting on what we say we believe after we’ve spend some time pondering it all.
More than merely attending to these three things, it really IS these three things. Advent IS waiting and pondering and acting.
It’s the whole point!
Sigh.
One can argue that Advent is a human construct, and to be legalistic about it is to be maniacally close-minded and unhelpfully rigid.
There is truth to that: at least the part about Advent being a human construct.
But I’m not so sure that that’s a bad thing.
Advent is like communal deep breathing, or a counter-cultural mass announcement that the Christian agenda is a different than Target’s/Macy’s/Amazon’s/Wal-Mart’s, a collective reminder of who we are–or are not, a gathered pause reconnecting us to anticipation rather than consumption, calm rather than mania, internal integrity rather than the fractured frenzy that this season tempts us to feel.
(And I’ve done a fine job of avoiding making any reference to “Occupy Advent,” haven’t I?)
So no.
I will not be decorating for Christmas.
Not yet.
Instead, I will decorate my home, and my spirit, and my family’s spirits, for Advent.
It’s true.
Except that Joy to the World is an Advent hymn.
For me, Advent acknowledges the darkness I find myself in, the darkness that, well, bites; it fits with what is often my mood this time of year (a coincidence of a Northern life, I admit.) Christmas, which should be downright scary– God became flesh, a baby, a killable human being?– isn’t going to be unsettling enough if the artificial lights don’t let the darkness become visible. So, Advent starting in darkness and moving towards the blue of hope– that’s the only thing that makes Christmas anything but absurd.
Ooops.
You’re right.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joy_to_the_World
It’s the “is come” part that always sounds Christmas-y.
That and I’m reactionary about Advent.
All your words are beautiful and true.
You’re not a single voice, Anna. Our Sunday sermon celebrated the concept that “he is coming,” and the excitement that IS Advent. (PS: we don’t sing Christmas songs until Dec. 24)
Yeah!
Thanks for this, Anna.
I, for one, would be much happier if Advent/Christmas came around once every three years. Every year is just too much. My scrooginess is the result of working retail for three years in college during the time between Thanksgiving and New Year’s + the never ending news stories about the “holiday shopping season” + my pointless longing for a different Christmas story. Incarnation and eschatology, traditionally defined, are not my favorite doctrines. Process theology has provided some help, but I still feel like I am so inundanted with both the dominant cultural narrative of the season (shopping) and the dominant theological narrative of the season (virgin birth + the second coming of Jesus). Frankly, I am just tired of it all. Bring on ordinary time! That is my favorite part of the litrugical year.
So glad for your honest no-holds-barred response.
I was just saying to my daughter that the first four notes of “It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas” sends me fleeing in search of Lent.
Bruce Cockburn might be a helpful antidote to you. Listen to this one, Cry of a Tiny Babe: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlX4cDAkz44 Lou Reed and Roseanne Cash help him out on this version (how’s that for trippy).
My favorite lines are:
“Joseph comes to Mary with his hat in his hand
Says ‘forgive me I thought you’d been with some other man’
She says ‘what if I had been — but I wasn’t anyway and guess what
I felt the baby kick today'”
This set is my second set of favorite lines:
“There are others who know about this miracle birth
The humblest of people catch a glimpse of their worth
For it isn’t to the palace that the Christ child comes
But to shepherds and street people, hookers and bums.”
Suddenly schmaltz meets real-life messy.
Ahhhhh. Bring on incarnational mess!
Advent’s obvious connections to second coming of Jesus thing confuses things, because the second coming of Jesus is so confusing.
I find great hope in eschatology, which I tend to to think of in terms of the advent of justice….and mercy, and reconciliation (no thanks to the Left Behind authors). Tying eschatology to judgment understood not as condemnation (nor as final goal!) but as a process toward grace and healing and in-gathering changes the conversation.
Which is why if we do talk about the second coming in Advent, it has to be tied to the one who came to hookers and bums, and the one who rose saying, as he died, “Forgive them, for they have no clue what they’re doing.”
Give me a call anytime you find yourself going into a “Holiday Shopping Season” catatonic state. I’m here for you. I feel your pain.
Thanks for the comment!
I love Advent and Advent hymns, but I also think we can be too legalistic about it….my dad worked in retail and counted on that last month’s income to make a living wage. sooo… while I don’t want people to be pepper spraying one another, I’m not totally against doing some shopping in December.
Yep. I’m not anti-shopping. That too can be part of the preparation. And I’m not opposed to lights being strung…though I call them winter lights until Christmas! And I’m not opposed to Christmas baking, even before Christmas.
(You’ll never catch me being opposed to butter)
It’s not that there can’t be hints of Christmas in Advent.
But I am troubled when shopping and lights and tree-decorating utterly overshadow Advent, not to mention miss the point of Christmas, which, I would argue, has a whole lot to do with the advent of social justice and concern for the poor, and not so much with the advent of Stuff and making us poor by buying it.
Goods, like alcohol, chocolate cake, exercise, television, and summer vacations are not evil, and in fact can be quite, well, good. In moderation. Which is exactly what one does not have so very much of this time of year, she writes, as an email pops into her inbox with the subject heading “Fa La La La Flannel + Today’s Markdowns,” followed by the declaration that “Customers are singing the praises of our premium flannel!”
Arg.
Lent, anyone?
As a noted liturgical expert of my acquaintance said, “Christmas hymns, Christmas carols and Christmas music have no place in the public service of the church prior to Vespers on December 24. To use them during Advent is to vitiate and neutralize the spirit of eschatological expectation which is of the essence of Advent, and to deprive Christmas of its proper role in the public worship of the church.”
I love your blog about Advent. I feel as strongly about it as you do. My congregation is having its Children’s Christmas Play on Advent 2. Not in the sanctuary, but still. Arrgh!
Mary, thank you for this comment! So good to hear from you. Clearly, you would be a Champion for Advent.
I’m glad you bring up liturgy. If I want to put on my smells-and-bellsness, worship is about enacting something: not play-acting, but like its definition, “putting into practice.”
Worship in Advent can be so glorious if we savor the season of hearing and waiting and preparing. And, if you’re lucky, the spirit of Advent worship can be taken along with a person, enacted outside of the service, carried into the Targets we all seem to end up having to visit, and coming to our aid when frenzy and Fa-La-Las attack.
I appreciate your words, and glad for them too.
And again, I’m not opposed to Fa-La-La-ing.
I can Fa-La-La with the best of them.
Though once a year will do it for me, I have to say.
And I’d prefer to do it after the Yule.
Scrooge that I am.
Anna I am with you on this all the way – could it be the training? LOL! Before retirement there really was not much time for getting involved in the Xmas rush, besides wanting to keep Advent in the deepest sense. Not wantinting to miss the celebrations of Christmas that most people do during Advent, I began keeping the 12 days of Christmas. I put my tree up on Xmas eve, turning the lights on after the mid-night service, celebrated in various ways for 12 days and capped the whole season off with an Epiphany dinner of friends and family! It has been the start of a good tradition that honors all three church seasons. Blessed advent to you and yours!
So wonderful and your comment makes me happy in multiple ways. Thanks for the idea for a new tradition!
(Walt would be proud)
Recently was at the Garden of Gethsemane……The rock where Jesus prayed and looked to heaven and wept and his humanity felt the pain of what was to come and “not my will but Your will be done”,….. Judas got paid……….. and Jesus arrested. The Olive Tree which is over 2000 years old is still there and alive close to the rock……. Early this morning, about 3 a.m. the same stars in the sky were brightly aglow,…… same stars during the birth and life of Jesus.
Happy Holidays…..and junk are offensive. (But merchants have caught the glow tempting us to spend our emotions into debt in order to express “love” for others……. Christian or not…….merchants are singing thank you Jesus all the way to the bank.)
Happy Birthday Jesus and Merry Christmas……unplug the Christmas tree… give to those in need…there are many! Come Lord Jesus!